05 问询同意

05 文稿

大家好！我是维氏教育的AMY老师，很高兴能够协助大家在特殊时期邀请到来自葡萄牙的国际婴儿抚触协会的资深教练-玛丽亚若昂教练，为我们录制了本期音频专辑，我们协助翻译为中文，希望在疫情期间及接下来的工作中能持续的与让大家保持更多交流、互动的机会！并协助大家成为一个更优秀的婴儿抚触讲师，以下就是第五期音频内容

你好I am Maria Joao Alvito, international trainer from the International Association of infant massage, and it is a pleasure to be again with you to talk a little time about one very very crucial point from our outline parental class. And also, for you as an instructor to understand better the importance of asking permission when you teach parents about that procedure during the parentalclass. And during this piece of episode, we will go over the intent and importance to explain in teaching asking permission. And also we will review the process to do it and how we need to value Vimala Maclure, our founder when she creates this procedure as a cue for the baby to understand the beginning of the massage routine at home and we will start talking about the intention behind asking permission.

你好，我是国际婴儿抚触协会的认证教练玛丽亚·若昂·阿尔维托，很高兴能再次与您一起讨论一个关于亲子课堂大纲中一个非常关键的点- 问询同意。此外，作为讲师，当我们在亲子抚触课堂上教导家长有关问询同意这个步骤的时候，需要更好的理解为什么这么做的重要性。在这段音频课中，我将详细介绍问询同意这个点在教学上的目的和它的重要性。此外，也将回顾这个过程当中，我们创办人维玛拉女士如何重视这个做法以及这么做的重要性，当她在创作这个步骤时，她是要提醒宝宝，了解到这就是婴儿按摩开始的一个讯号。

Asking permission have an intention to help parents to understand that asking permission let the infant know that massage is about to begin and to get prepared for it. At the same time. It will allow baby to respond and parents to stablish a communication with the baby respecting the baby cues and as an instructor, it is crucial to tell parents that massage its done, when baby shows a set of cues of acceptance, we never massage a baby if the baby sleeping or crying.

问询同意目的是帮助家长们了解，婴儿会知道问询同意就是表示按摩即将开始，因此宝宝开始为此做好准备。同时，这个步骤可以让婴儿作出反应，家长是通过这个反应来和宝宝沟通的，尊重婴儿的反应，作为讲师，在课堂上按摩的时间是很有限的，需要让家长清楚，当宝宝表现出一系例接受的讯号时，可以进行按摩， 如果宝宝在睡觉或哭闹的时候，家长是绝不会给宝宝做按摩的。

As an instructor, it's important to teach ask permission and informing parents how and why asking permission is so important. We need to motivate parents to always start massage at home with this way. It's not only a procedure in our outline parental class. It will be a way to start at home the routing massage, you as an instructor needs to show how to do， how it is done.  And you need to explain in our session no matter the number of the session how to do it demonstrating with your doll, in order parents can mirror you. And it is also crucial the parents to be aware that the baby can say “no” any time during the massage. Asking permission, it’s done before the massage it started, but it is a one going process through the massage routine. And as an instructor, we need to encourage parents to respectwhat’s baby communicating at all time. And because asking permission it's repeated in the same way every time the baby will quickly understand what it means. And Invite parents toobserve the baby disengage or engagecues. Invite parents to observe the baby response. And invite parents to respect the emotional and physical needs behind that baby's response.

作为讲师，问询同意并告知家长做的方式和原因，这一点是非常重要的。我们需要鼓励父母在家里按摩也要用这种方式来开始。这不仅仅是亲子抚触课堂大纲的一个步骤。这种方式就是我们在家里进行日常按摩的前奏，我们作为讲师需要展示如何做问询同意，如何做到的。在开展亲子抚触课堂时， 不论参加的课堂的数量，讲师要用娃娃来示范给家长看，以便家长可以用同样的方式来模仿你。关键的一点是，家长也开始意识到，婴儿在按摩时随时都有可能表达"不要的讯号"。问询同意这个步骤是在按摩开始之前做的，在按摩的过程中也是一个持续的过程。作为一名讲师，我们需要鼓励父母保持和宝宝的沟通和互动。所以每次问询同意的时候，每次宝宝都会迅速理解它的意思时，都会重复以同样的方式来做。并家长可以观察宝宝，观察宝宝的反应哪些是要的反应，哪些是不要的反应。并请父母们尊重宝宝这些反应背后的生理上的或是情感上的需求。

Ask permission is a continual process through the massage and this process involve observation and time ，and pausing in each new area to be massaged making sure the baby its receptive to continue to receive into participate in active way.   As described by our author Vimala Maclure, she created asking permission in order to include a special cue, we glad the baby know that massage is going to take place and once the parents are relaxed and the baby undress invite your class of parents to give this special cue that massage it's about to start. and as instructor you need to demonstrate with your doll, remind yourself to put a small amount of vegetable oil into your palm of hands , help and warm your palms together in the swishing sound in order that baby can hear and see at the same time , and invite parents to do an still hands show the palms establish eye contact or face-to-face contact with the babies and asked in a verbal way:”May I massage you, May I give you a massage, saying the name of the baby and invite parents to wait for the response. And only if the response is a set of positive engaged cues from the baby, invites the parents to follow you and to do the massage. But at the same time I need to remind you the first time the baby received an asking permission. Of course the baby doesn't know what is about happening, but in a subsequent session In the routine family the baby will become and discover that cue asking permission and how to response according to their needs, and sometimes how can you tell if the baby is saying “no”,you can't explain parents sometimes the baby are not ready, sometimes the baby put his hands up in a guarding motion or sometimes they are turning his head away,  and she/he fussing behavioural or crying, then the baby say I am not ready. What you can do as an instructor? You can value and respect the physical and emotional needs from the baby. You can value to know from the baby and you can invite parents to try to warm up the space or sometimes cover the baby body with a blanket , or sometimes invite parents to bring the baby more close to parents body , and you can value the nurturing touch techniques : resting hands or touch relaxation , or skin to skin contact in order the baby can feel the breathing, the relaxation mode from the parents and step-by-step the baby can feel more or not relax behavioural, and then as the instructor you can invite parents to value thatresponse and wait for another time to try again. Sometimes they can follow you during the class and at home with the more comfortable atmosphere more family space, they can create a very wonderful time to establish a moment to ask permission and to receive from the baby a set of engagedcues,  a very big “YES”from the baby and if the baby say a very big “YES” then they can communicate and establish nurturingtouch using the routine of massage.

问询同意是在按摩中是个持续的动作，这个动作包括通过观察和时间来完成，在每按摩一个新的地方停顿一下，并确保宝宝是以一种积极的方式回应，并愿意继续以积极的方式接受按摩。  正如我们的作者维玛拉女士描述的那样，她创造了问询同意这个步骤，以便我们来接收到一个特殊的提示，我们很高兴宝宝知道按摩马上要开始了，一旦父母放松下来，给婴儿脱掉衣服以后，就可以邀请课堂上的父母来做这个特殊的提醒，表示按摩即将开始了。

作为讲师，你需要用你的娃娃来演示， 提醒自己拿少许的植物油放到掌心里，然后双手搓动的响声中，一起帮助我们的放松并且温热双手，以便宝宝同时能听到也能够看到，并邀请家长做一个静止停顿的手势，与宝宝建立眼神接触或面对面接触，并口头提问："我可以给你按摩吗？我可以给你按摩吗？说出宝宝的名字，并邀请家长等待宝宝的回应。只有当宝宝的反应是一系列积极的要的线索时，就可以邀请家长们跟着讲师的做法，来进行按摩。但与此同时，我需要提醒讲师，第一次宝宝收到问询同意的讯号。当然，不知道发生了什么事情，但在以后的一个家庭的日常按摩活动中，宝宝就会懂得问询同意的意思是什么，以及家长如何根据宝宝的需要作出回应。有时你怎么能判断婴儿是否说"不"，你不能解释父母有时婴儿还没有准备好，有时婴儿把他的手放在一个防卫的动作，或者有时他们转过头，她/他大惊小怪的行为或哭泣，作为讲师，您可以做些什么？你可以重视和尊重宝宝的身体和情感上的需求。

从宝宝那里获得的讯息也是很重要的，这样可以让父母热身的过程，没准备好的时候，这时候给宝宝把毯子盖上，或有时让家长把宝宝抱起来贴近自己的身体，可以重视培育滋养性抚触的技巧：比如静置抚触或触摸放松，或亲密肌肤接触，以便宝宝能感觉到家长的呼吸， 用一种放松的方式，从家长可以和宝宝一步步的逐渐放松下来。然后作为讲师，可以让家长关注宝宝的反应，然后选另一个时间再做尝试。有时候家长可以跟着讲师在课堂上放松下来，有时家里舒适的气氛会让她们有更多的空间，在家里他们可以创造一个非常美妙的家庭的氛围，以形成一个特殊的时刻，再来问询同意，并等待做出的反应，如果宝宝给你一个非常大的"要按摩"的反应，那么家长就可以开始和宝宝建立最初的沟通，并且以此建立日常按摩的习惯。

When you as instructor demonstrate and teach parents how to do asking permission, you are value Vimala Maclure our author of our program. She always says the new-born baby, all babies no matter the culture of the language are human being, and during our teaching we need to value the baby's response. No matter if it is a yes or no matter if it is a no, it will bring to the baby this beginning very respectful, a build of trust, a build of respect and the baby will feel more loved and that kind of values. it will contribute for a very healthy life and you need to remember you are building the roots of the baby development during the first year of old, as an instructor value Vimala Maclure, teaching and demonstrate asking permission and invite parents always to do at home before they start to routine massage,and be grateful  for the opportunities you open in the parental routine and family lifes.  It will bring a very special moments if we feel respected and if you have space and time to answer yes or no during the massage. XieXie.

当你作为讲师演示并教导家长如何做问询同意这个步骤时，讲师更要尊重我们课程的原创者维玛拉女士。她总是强调的：“每一个新生的宝宝，所有的宝宝，无论语言、无论文化背景都是一个独立的个体，在我们的教学过程中，我们需要重视宝宝做出的反应。不管宝宝给出的反应是要的反应或是不要的反应，它将给婴儿带来懂得尊重，能够建立信任的基础，建立这个个体将来可以感受到更多的爱和以及正确的价值观。总之，这样的做法将促进一个非常健康的生活状态，我们需要记住，这一切的发生都是在建立婴儿早期发育的根基，在宝宝出生的头一年，作为一个讲师应该重视维玛拉女士的这个创意，在教学中示范问询同意，并邀请家长在家里做按摩之前，开始例行按摩之前，给宝宝做问询同意，这将为彼此打开沟通的机会，在父母的日常生活和家庭生活， 当我们感受到尊重，当在按摩的过程中有时间、有空间来回应宝宝的给出的要/不要的反应时， 这样做将带给家长和宝宝一个非常特殊的时刻。谢谢！